Confidence | Catch it. Spread it.
The hardest part about success is making success your new habit. Be confident in the results you would like to see from your hard work, and see them through. Measure the quality of your craft with the intention of not settling for anything less than what makes you feel EXCELLENT. Check out this snippet of an article that was recently shared by Forbes….
“It’s easy to mislead ourselves into thinking that if we just had the success we wanted, then we’d never doubt ourselves again and ooze the confidence we see in others. But it actually works in reverse. We must first start acting with the confidence we aspire to have if we want to build more of it. So what are five ways you can finally make peace with self-doubt and start showing up, shining and succeeding in your work and beyond?
Know your why – Why would you bother to speak up at work, to go and start a new career, or to take on a great big job where there’s more chance of you failing than the one you’re in right now? Why would you risk the humiliation and the possibility of rejection and failure? As I wrote in Stop Playing Safe, it’s important to be able to give a clear and compelling answer to the question “For the sake of what?” Doing so will help crystallise for you why you need to exit your comfort zone, make changes and take the chances toward the ambitions that excite you. Indeed, knowing our Why is indispensable for over-riding self-doubt as it moves you through fear into action, fueling confidence as you go.
Grow your grit – Associate Professor Angela Duckworth explains that “grit” is the passion and perseverance to stick with your long-term goals. One way you can cultivate grit is to ensure your goals are personally interesting and meaningful in the world. As Michelle McQuaid, a positive psychology expert, says, “When you’re able to connect passion with action it gives you a sense of purpose and energy that researchers are finding prevents burnout and promotes resiliency.” Developing daily habits and rituals that help you stay strong, focused, and resilient is therefore vital to staying the course over the long haul.
Choose your company – Emotions are contagious and we cannot help but pick up and be affected by the emotions of those around us. Self-doubt expert Louisa Jewell cautions that your social network can either increase or reduce your self-doubt. If you’re embarking on something new, make sure you’ve got really supportive people around you who are uplifting you and encouraging you to move forward. Likewise, avoid or limit your time with naysayers, cynics and ’emotional vampires’ that pull you down, feed your doubt and suck the life out of you. Sometimes you have to ‘prune your tree’ of those who you’ve outgrown.
Cultivate small daily habits to sow long-term changes – How you do the small things that few may see create the big long term results everyone wants . Accordingly BJ Fogg at Stanford University has found that by scaling back bigger behaviours into really small actions you can create dramatic shifts that last. His ‘tiny habits’ formula recommends scaling back change to one very small step; sequencing this step by adding to the end of a habit you already have – “After I (insert existing routine), I will (insert new routine)”; and then celebrate your completion of the step with a heartfelt “Awesome!” to create a jolt of positive emotion that helps the habit stick. Try it.
Set clear boundaries– Setting boundaries and saying no can be awkward, if not outright uncomfortable. But doing so will enable you to focus your time on those activities that nurture self-confidence, fuel courage and keep those doubting gremlins at bay. Author and productivity coach Valorie Burton recommends taking note of the areas where you currently feel the most frustrated, stressed or overwhelmed and being honest with yourself about the conversations you need to have. It may be that you need to ask someone to stop asking so much of you. Or it may be you need to say no to some of the offers, invitations and opportunities that you may previously have taken on. After all, you can’t build confidence by doing things that neither leverage your strengths nor ‘fill your tank.’ ”